Jason Silver | Pastor and Author
Two of the most common reasons (not the only reasons) for people leaving a Church are:
2. Unreasonable Expectations leading to disappointment.
When disappointment sets in, we believe that there’s something wrong with our Church, or maybe we’re with the wrong Church. With such belief, leaving that Church is most likely imminent.
Although most folks, never really see that they will almost certainly go around the same mountain again at the next Church they go to. I’ve had many people over the years come to a church I pastored and their first Sunday give a big long story about why they left the 3 or 4 churches before they landed on our doorstep. And the “why they left” was always someone else’s fault, never their own. Personal responsibility is seldom, if ever mentioned in the process.
If you begin attending and commit to a Church with false or idealistic expectations of what it takes to make it work, no matter how long you stay there, you will have major challenges. And if you cement those ideas by saying to yourself ‘I am right and the Church is wrong’ it only makes matters worst.
Even though we see in scripture how the Church should be, much of our introduction to it comes from our parents, family members, or friends. No matter whose Church you are exposed to, remember that yours will be different because God has given yours its own mission and vision.
How You Can Help:
1) Reduce and or eliminate false expectations for your local Church. Grab a hold of the common vision of the Church. Live today, enjoy today and work toward a better and brighter tomorrow as you grow together in your relationships. In other words, set goals and work toward them as you create the Church God gave you the vision for.
2) Realize that local Churches like marriages go through different phases. Just like the weather; some days it’s sunny, some days it cold, others overcast and rainy, while others are stormy. All Churches are confronted with changes and challenges. But when stormy days arrive, the true test of your commitment will be ‘how did we weather the storm.’ Those who stand firm during times of storms, come out at the other end with a stronger and renewed love for one another.
3) There’s nothing wrong with going to another Church to visit or for a conference and leaving impressed with how they do Church. However, avoid comparing your Church with theirs, and returning back with a corrective attitude towards how your leadership should be doing what that Church is doing. This is actually hurtful, and shows lack of appreciation for the hard work of your home Church leadership. Not to mention, if you actually attended the other Church for any period of time , you would eventually find things you didn’t like about it too.
It’s been said regarding a marriage certificate, that it really is a work permit. Well the same can be said about commitment to a local Church… we’re all in this to work together!
As disciples we are called to be contributors, not consumers. It’s not all about what your Church can do for you, it’s what can you do for your church family?
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